The vast, vast majority of style advice is about your body. Have you noticed this? How to make your bust look bigger if you're flat-chested, or smaller if you're busty. How to make your tush look rounder or how to disguise a really big tush. How to make your legs look longer if they're short, or shorter if they're long. Et cetera. I have a tiny bust and narrow hips. And fashion gurus have been telling me all my life that this makes me a "rectangle, " and that I should dress in a way that makes me appear to have a narrow waist and a full bust. For example, I'm supposed to wear padded bikini tops with ruffles. This site tells me I need "Dresses that add definition to your bottom and necklines that add meat to the upper body. " This site says "always add belts to your tops and dresses. " This site says "You need to create the illusion of a waist." When you stop and think about it, you realize that style advice like this is based on two assumptions: 1. Other people are mainly looking at your body, not your face. 2. Every woman looks most beautiful when her body appears as a perfectly proportioned hourglass. Neither of these things is true. Number 1 is obviously false. You'd be hard-pressed to correctly identify anyone but your closest family members if you could only see them from the neck down. By contrast, you'll recognize a face you haven't seen in 20 years, even if it's been changed by age. Our brains are wired to notice and remember faces. When we look at other people, that's mainly what we're looking at. Number 2 is also demonstrably false. Some women with ample curves look most lovely when their curves are exaggerated, and some full-figured women look most lovely when their curves are downplayed. Some women with flat busts and hips look best in clothes that emphasize the flatness, and some look their best in clothes that create a suggestion of curves. A curvy woman who's more lovely in clothes that de-emphasize her curves: Jamie Lee Curtis: A less-curvy woman who looks her best when her curves are played down, not emphasized: Emma Watson. A curvy woman who looks much better when her curves are emphasized than when her curves are obscured: Christina Hendricks. A woman with a straight silhouette who looks lovelier when the illusion of curves is created: Olivia Wilde. In each of these cases, "body type" has nothing to do with what clothes are flattering. There are women of every body type who look fantastic with a cinched waist and a sweetheart neckline. There are women of every body type who look amazing in rectangular or squarish silhouettes with no waist or bust emphasis. What's the controlling factor, then? The face. Jamie Lee Curtis has a primarily Dramatic face that's flattered by long, straight lines and minimalism.
Emma Watson has a primarily Gamine face that's flattered by shorter straight lines and small shapes. Christina Hendricks and Olivia Wilde both have faces with a lot of Romantic, so they both look great in clothes that create the impression of a sexy, womanly figure. (I suspect Wilde has Dramatic and perhaps Classic as well.) As an Ethereal Natural, neither of my dominant identities is flattered by a sexy, full bustline or a cinched waist. What's the point of me appearing to have an hourglass figure if that figure clashes with my face, which is what people are actually looking at? I look my best in a sort of abstract, feminine minimalism that feels casual. My bust is unemphasized and my waist is uncinched, and it looks great. "Body type" advice is bogus. Despite what you've been led to believe, we are all focusing on your face, not your body. To achieve visual harmony, dress for your face. Not sure of your style type? Try the Style Identity Calculator, or invest in a virtual analysis.
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Jessica
3/11/2019 01:34:59 pm
Really great article!!
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Lizzie
3/11/2019 01:56:17 pm
So true! I’m a vertically-challenged, “funsized” romantic. I remember in middle school when someone first explained to me what a butterface was :) I believe the term by definition is rude. But I think what people are really denoting is a woman or man with a very R or D body (respectively) but lack thereof in the face.
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Lizzie
3/13/2019 03:44:57 pm
Rachel or Katja... Or whoever runs this blog? Maybe I’m using the wrong names (I’m new to this website).
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Miranda
3/14/2019 02:28:08 am
I'm an REG! I'm still figuring it out, but I'd love to talk about it. I haven't found any place in particular to shop. I'm using an RG color scheme (jewel tones with high color contrast, either purple/teal or fuchsia/teal), experimenting with silhouettes (so far skinny jeans + draped/ruched top is my favorite), and adding E in with sparkle and shine.
Jo.
3/16/2019 06:16:51 am
To Miranda and everyone who knows,
Melina
3/17/2019 11:44:55 am
Jo, I don't get any anti-bot security pictures clicking when adding a comment on this site (though many other sites have it), sounds strange if some get it and some not?
Gabriella
3/11/2019 02:18:52 pm
Rachel, as an "expert" you should know that Jamie is not curvy. She is a rectangle, like you. Do not write things that´s not true.
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Kels
3/11/2019 07:01:23 pm
Not only is curviness relative, but one can easily see that Rachel’s point is proven by simply comparing Jamie’s outfits. The one on the right is more harmonious and flatters JLC’s face more. Which was the point of the post. Regardless of whether Jamie is curvy by your standards, the point stands. There is always someone like you anonymously, yet harshly criticizing the things Rachel writes. It’s a wonder she does us this service anymore with the way you guys often voice your opinions like they’re facts. It’s fine to voice a disagreement, but why be disrespectful?
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JN
3/13/2019 05:16:53 am
Kels, oh don't panic - there are not many ppl like you've described :)
Gabriella
3/11/2019 02:38:32 pm
I meant Do not write things that are not true.
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KM
3/11/2019 04:08:51 pm
Your post is very rude, and what's more, how do you claim to know better what kind of body Jamie Lee Curtis has, have you so closely observed her...?
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Mary Ellen
3/16/2019 01:36:16 pm
Gabriella, Miss Curtis herself has said that she has a curvy body type. You are just flat out rude!
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Violet
3/11/2019 03:17:37 pm
Wow! I have never thought of this but makes a LOT of sense. Love your originality and insights.
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Melina
3/11/2019 04:04:24 pm
So true, I was always a bit baffled by the "rectangle" advice, and other similar stupid fashion categories ;) But mostly ignored them and dressed up in the way that was flattering to me. Now I realize I'm probably of the last category that Olivia Wilde represents (I'm REI). :)
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W.
3/11/2019 04:15:56 pm
Great part, and great point!
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Miranda
3/14/2019 02:37:03 am
I find I need to pick the elements that suit both my body and my style ID (REG) to look my best. A crewneck (G) might give an impression that suits my face, but my long decolletage means that a more open neckline suits me better, and so I go with R recommendations for necklines. I have a short mid-body, so a G waist treatment is also not great - luckily, E and R waist treatments suit me all around.
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Melina
3/14/2019 04:01:27 am
Miranda, can I ask what is a R necklace length..? I realize E necklace length is probably long, but no idea of R length.
Kels
3/15/2019 01:12:12 pm
Maybe sitting right in one’s décolletage?
Jo.
3/16/2019 07:31:51 am
Miranda,
Miranda
3/16/2019 06:26:20 pm
Melina: R necklaces are short, like 16". I'm not sure if collars are R, but I seem to have good success with those two lengths. An inch longer and they just look weird on me.
Lizzie
3/16/2019 07:08:08 pm
Hey Miranda! I’m going to reply to you here since the “reply” button is strangely missing on your response to my comment.
Melina
3/17/2019 11:48:50 am
Miranda, thanks, that's as I thought :) I just have to find some kind of balance in length, as I have both R and E (the same with clothes, of course). ;)
Miranda
3/18/2019 09:15:14 pm
Lizzie, is there a way to message on here?
De
3/12/2019 02:03:35 pm
I think a possible indicator of what type you may have is through trying to figure out what effect you give if you wear something low cut or more revealing.
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Albie
3/12/2019 03:10:12 pm
Being a large part of the face/head, hair often makes or breaks a look. Especially for hairdos requiring control and neatness: D,C influences. Dressing for face is supported even from this perspective.
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Mary Ellen
3/15/2019 08:49:08 pm
I am a natural-ingénue. What works for me is to dress ingénue around my face and keep the more natural lines from my bust down. I definitely agree that the face is much more important to flatter than the body.
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EP
3/15/2019 11:00:49 pm
I’m an NI too (with some E). I’ve found I need to use more N design lines with I details, prints, and color. I have a really long neck, and I Peter Pan collars look ridiculous on me.
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Mary Ellen
3/16/2019 01:54:50 pm
It is cool how we can be of the same essence but have different body types. My neck is short, but I need the girlish femininity of ingénue around my face. :-) Speaking of that, are there any ingenues out there who have favorites among earrings? I would love some new ideas.
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EP
3/16/2019 09:59:59 pm
I like The Dotted Poppy on Etsy. Lots of nature inspired pieces that are still light and girly. Or when in doubt, I wear my season’s version of pink in a simple drop/dangle single bead earring. Goes with everything.
Marta
3/16/2019 04:44:39 pm
So true! I'm an ED (with a little of Gamine and Romantic) and I struggle to find non-revealing swimsuits. I don't have a flat bust at all but sexy clothing doesn't suit me and looking for a bikini which isn't revealing is super difficult!
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Jo.
3/16/2019 05:21:39 pm
Marta, I suspect she has DE and perhaps R as well.
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Jo.
3/17/2019 07:13:50 am
Lizzie, and what about tying strings? esp. on the back- in inverted triangle shape, like a corset - how do you feel wearing these? I know that kind of must be R, but there are tying both on ED board ( a high heels and a dress) and on R board on Rachel pinterest and I can't distinguish between E and R kind of tying. Do you distinguish between?
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dia
3/18/2019 01:39:35 am
Something's been bugging me... the people who notice my body the most ARE my close relatives (specifically gossipy aunts). Matching my wardrobe to my face in a work situation makes sense, because that's the part of me people are societally expected to be looking at. But my family doesn't have these reservations, and will judge my body as they please. This is most present in pictures. Sure, we notice mostly a face in real life, but a still image puts every part of the body on display. It's these circumstances where I think trying to fake a conventionally attractive body shape is useful.
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6/26/2019 08:09:40 am
There is a huge difference in before and after image. I am wondering how can a person look change so much. Its amazing.
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7/3/2019 01:07:03 am
Surprised to see the drastically change in face.
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SJ
4/30/2022 04:15:54 pm
Hi, Rachel :)
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