A huge portion of successful clothes shopping consists of knowing what to say No to.
I go into a store, and my eyes take in everything; I mentally reject most of what I see, and zero in on what remains.
I'm able to do this because I know I'm an Ethereal Natural, and I know what Ethereal Naturals shouldn't wear. From sleeve types to skirt shapes to fabrics to silhouettes, I know everything I should avoid.
I'd love for you to be able to do this too. So I've created What Not To Wear guides for each of the 63 Style Identities.
Your guide is a two-page document that identifies everything you should stay away from.
Instead of paying hundreds or thousands of dollars to shop with a stylist, pay $15 and take this list shopping with you. If it's on the list, don't buy it.
Use it to purge your closet, too. I anticipate "Ah-ha" moments when items on the list match the clothes in the back that you never wear.
If you don't yet know your Style Identity, but you have a pretty good idea of what looks good on you, try the Style Identity Calculator.
And if you're totally lost, invest in a virtual style analysis. Your What Not To Wear Guide is now free with your virtual analysis!
Shop What Not To Wear guides here.
We often naturally gravitate toward the clothes that best suit us. So knowing what we should stay the heck away from may be even more useful than knowing what to seek out.
Schedule your virtual analysis now, and you'll receive a free What Not To Wear guide.
It's a great tool for purging your closet. Consult it when you shop to remind yourself what to say No to.
Last week I posted some suggestions for dressing casually when your style identity seems rather formal.
A Romantic Natural reader asks, "What about more casual style identities that need formal solutions?" She needs to manifest her style identity, which is inherently somewhat laid-back, in a more formal work environment. A lot of us find ourselves i a similar situation.
Let's start by assuming that we need to wear a suit or a suit equivalent. We can do this while still bringing in a lot of R and N. To do this, we'll choose a few options from the first list below, and a few from the second.
To add R elements to your basic office suit look:
- choose skirt suits that you buy as a set
- ...or if you go with a pants suit, make sure the slacks are fitted, tapered, and ankle-revealing
- try a lacy camisole under your blazer
- choose a blazer that emphasizes your waist and shows your wrists
- add chandelier earrings or an ornate necklace
- choose sexier shoes, with a tapering heel and perhaps a peep toe
- create an hourglass silhouette
- overall, go for items with feminine details, such as ruffles, lace, rounded edges, and gathers
To add N elements to your basic office suit look:
- create your "suit" look with separates
- choose straight-leg slacks
- choose a blazer that's straight through the waist, not fitted, and longer (hitting at the hips or upper thighs)
- accessorize minimally, with a simple, larger necklace or a simple pair of distinctive, larger earrings
- choose comfortable, simple shoes with a stacked or lower heel
- go for a loose, easy fit
- overall, choose items that have a more masculine appearance, with straight lines and very little detail
If you only do the first list, you'll be completely Romantic; if you only do the second list, you'll be completely Natural. So to read as Romantic Natural, combine a few elements from each.
(It's important to note: for this combo identity, and for every combo identity, your effect is not created by averaging the two identities or finding some middle ground. Your effect is instead created by combining elements of each of the core identities.)